Sunday, October 14, 2012

Day 13 and 14} Love Is...

 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
"Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres". 

Time to play catch up; I've been M.I.A for the last two days; but aren't all us Moms M.I.A on the weekends?
My son races motocross; and that is enough to get any Moms blood pumping, and heart racing as fast as he races his bike!  Relaxing on a race weekend is usually unheard of; therefore it takes a lot of winding down to get ready for another regular school week.  He placed 2nd overall! :)

So I was in a zone today; just so happy my boy is still in one piece; after racing like he does. This is post zone, I can now comfortably sit and relax knowing the adrenaline rush has trickled slowly to an end.  

Therefore I am putting two days together; they pretty much co-inside with what God has been showing me this past week; so it works out perfectly.

This series is 31 days to Fear Free Mothering; and early last week I came across 1st Corinthians 13: 4-7; and decided this was a verse that God wants me to pull apart into sections.  So the two parts of this verse I'm pulling out this week is:
"Love is not self seeking, it is not easily angered".
Those are two definitions of what Love is not; and they go so completely hand in hand with eachother.

Let me try my hardest to explain why.  Maybe you already see it; but I didn't see it this way until this past week.

I realized that when I am angry towards my children, it stems from me wanting to look good as a parent.  I want to take the credit for their good  behavior; and when they don't listen- I get angry- but not for the right reasons.  For selfish reasons.  I am more worried about "Me" when they act out.  

God showed me this past week; through this verse how I need to re-direct my responses to my children.

That my main goal as a Mother should be that I want them to do good - for "their" good; not mine.  

When I do this the anger will be replaced with a desire to teach.

He showed me clear as day that I need to remember; and NEVER FORGET

that my job as a Mother is to teach; NOT control.  

I can be a control freak; I will be the 1st to admit that.  I tend to want everything to go my way, and sadly find myself controlling my children- instead of taking the time to teach them about why what they are doing is wrong.

Being controlling is self seeking- that is not Love.

Teaching is for the betterment of "their" well being; not my own- and that is Love.

Musical Sunday


  1. I hear you! When I get angry with my husband, it's because I don't want to look like a bad wife or like our marriage isn't perfect. But that's my issue, not his. I can't claim his good behavior for myself, but I can be appreciative and proud of his accomplishments.

    You've given me lots to think about. Great post!

    1. Thank you! :) that is so true; I didn't even think about my husband in this one- lol; now you've given "me" even more to think about. ;)